The Initial Booking

The first meeting is straightforward. The client is looking for a sexual service with an escort who can fulfil this requirement, with various criteria in mind. He may have started to search for an escort by using google and typing in a search such as Find more Escort Ads in London. Soon he has a list of escorts, and he starts to contact them. A conversation should take place around the services required, the boundaries and of course the date, time and price. Even at this early stage of booking, a relationship is building around trust, limitations and expectations. Both parties should be respectful of each other. Clear, concise, and truthful messages between client and escort help build trust.

Building on this Trust

Total trust takes time to build. It is not immediate. Trust comes over time through consistent behaviour. In this case, the reliability, respect and absolute honesty.

Reliability, appointments are punctual. The expectations of client and escort are met. Boundaries are not overstepped and both parties are respecting the confidentiality of the other party.

Shared Experiences: Beyond the Transaction

As the meetings continue, these dates may be extended to include other activities. For instance, going out for a meal at an expensive restaurant. Taking in a show, a drink at a pub, a night out in a club. Buying tickets to a show or the escorts favourite band. These shared outing outside the bedroom start to build a higher level of companionship. Eventually these shared times outside the bedroom could extend to joining in or watching your partners sports or hobbies.  We have reached a point where the shared activities are moving from purely monetary to the beginning of a relationship.  These times together also generate memories. These memories can be fondly looked back on.  Good memories reinforce the building bond between client and escort.

Support and Understanding

As the relationship builds over time the escort and client will tell each other little secrets. The client will unload his work frustrations, and the problems he has with his home life. He may be married and the weeks failures at home could be presented to the sympathetic listening ears of the escort. Many escorts will listen to this with care and understanding and respond with their views of life. These conversations build a bond between client and provider.

This communication is often two way, with the client becoming a support to the escort. He will understand the frustration the escort has with dangerous and unsympathetic clients. He will understand the issues the escort has with unwanted clients and stalkers.    He will understand the issues the escort has with privacy and the relationship she has with family and friends. Many clients are able to provide professional services and advice to escorts. This might be financial, technical or medical, all depending on the expertise of the client

Celebrating Milestones

In any personal relationship, it is important to mark. Birthdays come to mind, as well as, anniversaries of their first meeting, or major event. These calendar events can be celebrated at the next meeting, or through a discreet message. Remembering personal events increases the shared bonds in the relationship.

The Importance of Boundaries

As the relationship grows deeper, it is still vital that the clear boundaries in the relationship are not overstepped. Client and Escort must continue to express their levels of comfort and must respect the other personal life. Within these boundaries, the relationship can continue to expand.

The Money Side

In this relationship, there is still the financial aspect.  The client is paying, the escort is receiving his money. It is important there are no misunderstandings in this arrangement, and that either side does not have feelings of being exploited.  As the relationship develops, and honest discussion on money, time and its role must be had. This will help navigate any hidden rocks in the tryst.

The payment is often seen as part of the professional boundary which allows the relationship to work. Client and Escort need to find the balancing point between financial reward and the personal relationship.

Mutual Growth and Development

In any good relationship, both parties will benefit from the other party. This might manifest itself as learning new skills from the other party. Learning to love and listening to each other. Appreciating new types of arts. Going to music events could introduce the escort or the client to new types of entertainment. In these mutual relationships, each participant should be growing off the other.

Conclusion

Initially the relationship between Escort and Client is transactional. The escort earning money to live on, the client purchasing the sexual services they can’t get elsewhere.  With a client relationship which lasts over many bookings, this relationship will build. First the escort will know what physically pleases the client. As the relationship builds the conversation and shared conversations become remembered and the building of a friendship starts.  These non-sexual aspects of the relationship will build as time progresses, until they become the major factor in the meetings.